Hopeful Living · Loving

Living Out Wedding Vows (at least from my perspective)



It’s Thanksgiving week and I’m feeling thankful! This week I’ll be sharing posts highlighting some of the things I’m most thankful for, with a helpful spin!

Up today, my husband.

In a lot of ways I believe that I got the better end of the deal when it came to my marriage. I could probably write a book on all the ways that I believe I’m unworthy of having married my husband! But, I’ll spare you all the details. I know, for most people, it’s easy to be well aware of your own sins and shortcomings, and this is certainly true for myself. Now, I don’t want to paint a picture of him being perfect, because he is not, but my husband is definitely a precious gift. He’s undeserved, and I will forever be thankful to be His.

Recently my family attended my cousin’s wedding, and the day was so beautiful and definitely memorable! (On top of a mountain with beautiful panoramic views! Also 40 mph wind gusts, super cold with the wind chill, and the ceremony was outdoors!) Though the weather didn’t cooperate as hoped, the day still went off wonderfully culminating in the happy newlyweds driving off to begin the adventure of marriage together!

Anytime I attend a wedding I get sappy and sentimental as I think about my wedding and my husband. Listening to the vows is often my favorite part of weddings. So much hope, faith, and love wrapped up in a few sentences. As the days go by, the living out of those vows is what is actually significant, not just the words themselves. Though they be beautiful, without action behind them they are nothing more than words.

I’ve had the joy of being the recipient of our vows lived out as well as striving myself to put feet to those vows for over 11 years now. At times it has been an absolute pleasure and joy, but, as with all things that are worth the effort, at times it has been an incredible challenge.

Here’s a little glimpse at some of the realities we’ve faced as we have lived this adventure of marriage.

  I, Heather,

(a sinful mess of a woman),

take you, Blake,

(a sinful but amazingly patient and gracious man)

to be my lawfully wedded husband.

(Yes my love, you are stuck with me! And if we could dissolve any chance of breaking this marriage we would do it!)

To have and to hold,

(with promises to try my very best not to put my freezing cold feet upon your legs when I do hold you.)

from this day forward,

(and my how incredibly fast the forward will go.)

for better,

(as there will be significant joys and happinesses in the coming days that we cannot see right now, and sharing those joys makes them infinitely more enjoyable)

for worse,

(as there will be difficulties and challenges that we cannot imagine ahead for us, but we are a team. And as a team facing those challenges together makes them infinitely less difficult.)

for richer or for poorer,

( “for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:11-13

No matter what the bank account looks like, I am with you, support you, and believe in you always. )

in sickness and in health,

(I will happily tag team taking care of the kids with you when we both simultaneously come down with the stomach bug. I will believe that no matter what is thrown our way, we will be able to face it better together.)

to love and cherish,

(because you are a gift, a gift, a precious undeserved gift!)

until death do us part.

(And I will do my best to live mindful of our mortality and treat this life with you as the gift that it is. Everyday, a gift, that I am ever so thankful for.) 


I challenge you today, my dear, married reader, to think on the vows you spoke. Consider how you are living them out with your spouse. ❤

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